"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made..." Psalm 139 V.14
Many put this bible verse on their mirror, so that every day, when they looked in the mirror, this would be the description of their reflection. Yet in a society that is obsessed with beauty, success and diets, it is sometimes so easy to listen to the voice of our insecurities, rather than hear the true voice of God.
Growing up I struggled with insecurity. Obsessed with body image, and the way I was seen by others, I constantly needed affirmation. Eventually, I became so obsessive that I began weighing myself every day, and would control my eating in an attempt to lose more and more weight. I struggled to escape my insecurities and I treated myself very badly. Thanks to God's grace, these feelings have begun to heal, along with my obsession over my weight and need to control my eating. Yet I have become more aware of how much I have allowed insecurities to control me. I realised how much I had been striving in my life to prove to myself and others that I had value. But as children of God, we have value because we belong to the Father. We were set apart even before we were born- "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart." Jeremiah 1:5
I thought I'd share things I have found helpful in dealing with insecurity as a Christian:
It is ok to feel insecure. Everyone deals with insecurities
I have a very wise and wonderful friend who once said this:
"Everyone has insecurities. No one has it completely together. A strong, confident person is someone who accepts that."
No one is perfectly secure, and it shows maturity to admit your insecurities. Also, don't let yourself be defined by your insecurities. Just because you are insecure at times doesn't make you an 'insecure' person.
Lay your insecurities before the Lord
I do not feel that all my insecurities have gone in a flash, but I am learning to talk to God about them. You can offer them up to him, just like anything else in your life.
Ask the Lord to reveal how he sees you
It might seem odd, but after someone prayed this over me, I realised it's power. God is longing to reveal this to us, and the more you see yourself in God's eyes, the less you will be effected by the world's opinion of you.
Get in the habit of encouraging others around you.
Matthew Porter's sermon about humility taught us that, as Christians, we are called to put the needs of other's before our own. Insecurity occurs when we are too fixated on our own inadequacy. So, instead, look at how you can serve others through encouragement. Also, try not to compliment people only on the way they look, their intelligence or their overall popularity. This can be good, but try to emphasise their godly qualities.
I hope you have found this helpful. God bless x
Livvi Scales is a second year Literature student at York Uni. She has interest in puppetry, reading, and anything involving coffee.